Anyway we've had a few tiffs here and there and I've had a sour attitude about the whole situation, but mostly I've been trying to deal with all of our hardships myself instead of trusting in God to provide and see us through this. I want Sean to succeed so much in this Rodeo business, I just want it to be easy...and believe it or not life is hard....gasp..
My Auntie sent me a book that has really helped me and even though I've only had it for three days, I can already see how much help it will be and how much mine and Sean's relationship will benefit from it. It's called "The power of a Praying Wife" by Stormie Omartian
So far I've learned when praying for Your Husband and to better improve your marriage you need to ask God for a few things: (Oh and this is just Chapter one!)
Ask God to Change you first. If there is anything in your life that needs to be fixed ask God to reveal it to you and help you change it.
Ask God to Cleanse your heart and give you a positive, joyful, and loving attitude.
Ask God to reveal to you and your husband changes that need to be made and ask for help in changing them.
Realize that there is a time and a place for everything. Sometimes your husband may not be in the place to hear what you have to say, or ask, or gripe about and it can only make things worse.
Also, run the words by God before you say them to your husband. It will help you to only say nice things to your husband.
Pray that God will penetrate your husbands soul if he's not a child of God.
Pray that God will help you keep your house a loving, clean, home, whether it be keeping the laundry done, the kids fed, or making an income to support your family, make sure it's a "Home."
Pray that God will help you stay attractive on the inside as well as helping you stay attractive to your husband on the outside.
Anyway, this really made me think and has made me have a better attitude towards my husband. I can already tell the difference in the past three days that he's been home. Even though he can make me really really really really mad, praying calms me down and helps things go much smoother
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After almost 15 years Chris & I still don't have all the answers....strange huh??? I thought I would know everything after that many years :O)
But you are on the right track! Put God first in your home, life & marriage and everything else will fall into place. Maybe you can get Sean a small bible that he can take with him on the road and you guys can share time together in a daily devotion too. Chris takes one with him everytime he pack his bags(its there) and alot of time I will stick a quick love note in it for him to find. :O)
I understand how tuff the apart time and the strain on money can be for you guys. But even all the money in the world will not make a happy marriage.
I will be praying for you both
{{{{many hugs}}}}
Relationships ARE hard!
About money and stress... and important thing for women is security. When the paychecks aren't steady that can disrupt our security. I've been there. The first few years of our marriage were financially though. It sucks. Find a way to know what you have and live on that. Try to get $1000 in savings (if you still have debt you are paying off... it will be more if you don't.) That "emergency fund" can give you a lot of peace of mind and you won't have to fight about money every time something breaks down because you will have the funds to fix it.
I know that won't fix every problem but it seems that is a big stress for you that could possibly be at least lessened.
And make sure you don't get resentful that he is following his dreams while you stay at home. (I get resentful a lot and have to check myself all. the. time.) Your time will come too!
Those are some awesome tips! & ditto everything laura said. Not b/c i have been married long (only 14 months!) but b/c i love dave ramsey - brad & i don't make a lot of money but we do have money in savings (not quite 1000) & we do have most of our debt paid off & are steadily working on the rest. We girls definitely need security!! I hope your hubby succeeds in the rodeo biz so you don't have to stress so much! God will definitely take care of you! :)
girl you trip me out! I have added my email to my side bar
(just for you!)
Yes, great book! I have had many of times in need of that book. It brings to back to a new place where I see things the way God wants me to rather than how I want to.
Aaron and I had a rough start, but it seems we are finally on the same page. It just took 4 years to get there.
It's nice to see other people around my age putting God in their marriage...I think too many couples don't take marriage seriously anymore because divorce is always an option. My husband and I went into our marriage almost 6 years ago with a firm belief that God would guide us and we would never get divorced. That has helped us get through a lot of struggles - sometimes I think we fight more because we know our fights won't lead to us being apart, therefore we don't avoid any issues that need discussing.
If there is ever a time for your husband to try pro rodeo, it's now before you have kids, because it's easy to resent someone when you're home with the kids all the time and they're out doing what they want to do. Hopefully it will work out for him, and if it's not meant to be, hopefully he will realize that himself and change course. Good luck with all of this and keep the faith!
Hello doll! You have the weight of the world on your shoulders, but at least you have God to help you carry the load. Judging by what I have read, you and Sean have a love and passion for each other. Stick together in love and in faith. Things will work out. My prayers are with you both.
Sleep well friend.
Think I need this book! I'm the worst about wanting to control and fix everything myself and not praying about it first.
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